Our next question comes to us via Gynomite, a licensed therapist living in NYC. This query popped up in her inbox some time ago, and while therapists usually have all the answers, they’re smart enough to ask an expert when it comes to Facebook-related drama. Thankfully, the Laurens are here to help.
Q: How do I handle a really passive aggressive Facebook friend? I have this friend that I see fairly often because she’s in my circle, but we’re not super close or anything. She constantly posts status updates and tweets that seem to be aimed at me directly, stuff like “well I guess some people get drunk faster than others” the morning after I get drunk with everyone, or “Ugh, some people need to shut up” after I post a few updates in a row. If I say anything to her about it, I know she’s going to say that I’m being egotistical by assuming they’re about me, but I KNOW they’re about me. What do I do?
Sorry if you needed this information a few months ago— I was just busy moving across the country. But that’s no excuse for not tackling this issue on the double and for that I apologize. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in my move to LA it’s that haterz gon’ hate. Sounds like this Facebook Biatch lives and breathes for every little update you choose to give your internet pals. I’m a huge fan of the DELETE button—if I get sick of someone’s updates or if I just decide someone doesn’t need to be privy to mine, I head over to my “Friends” section and click a few X’s. Honestly it sounds like this cow just needs to be put out to pasture. I know you’re going to have to hang out with her every so often whether you like it or not, but your best bet is to delete and retreat. This way you avoid a passive aggressive FB war and force her to handle her emotions in person. Let her get riled up about your future status messages in person and, if you’re lucky, she’ll post a comment to your face. If she can’t bring it IRL then don’t you worry your pretty little head about her answer to that age old FB question, “What’s on your mind?”