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Q: if you write a message on someones wall then immediately  defriend them  will they see the wall post?
-Hurry
A:  I know you’re in a rush so I’ll make it quick— that post is there for  life. You’re screwed. Good luck, bro.
Love,
Lauren

Q: if you write a message on someones wall then immediately defriend them will they see the wall post?

-Hurry

A: I know you’re in a rush so I’ll make it quick— that post is there for life. You’re screwed. Good luck, bro.


Love,

Lauren

Our next question comes to us via Gynomite, a licensed therapist living in NYC. This query popped up in her inbox some time ago, and while therapists usually have all the answers, they’re smart enough to ask an expert when it comes to Facebook-related drama. Thankfully, the Laurens are here to help.
Q: How do I handle a really passive aggressive Facebook friend?  I have this friend that I see fairly often because she’s in my circle, but we’re not super close or anything.  She constantly posts status updates and tweets that seem to be aimed at me directly, stuff like “well I guess some people get drunk faster than others” the morning after I get drunk with everyone, or “Ugh, some people need to shut up” after I post a few updates in a row.  If I say anything to her about it, I know she’s going to say that I’m being egotistical by assuming they’re about me, but I KNOW they’re about me.  What do I do?
Hello caller!
Sorry if you needed this information a few months ago— I was just busy moving across the country. But that’s no excuse for not tackling this issue on the double and for that I apologize. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in my move to LA it’s that haterz gon’ hate. Sounds like this Facebook Biatch lives and breathes for every little update you choose to give your internet pals. I’m a huge fan of the DELETE button—if I get sick of someone’s updates or if I just decide someone doesn’t need to be privy to mine, I head over to my “Friends” section and click a few X’s. Honestly it sounds like this cow just needs to be put out to pasture. I know you’re going to have to hang out with her every so often whether you like it or not, but your best bet is to delete and retreat. This way you avoid a passive aggressive FB war and force her to handle her emotions in person. Let her get riled up about your future status messages in person and, if you’re lucky, she’ll post a comment to your face. If she can’t bring it IRL then don’t you worry your pretty little head about her answer to that age old FB question, “What’s on your mind?”
Love,Lauren

Our next question comes to us via Gynomite, a licensed therapist living in NYC. This query popped up in her inbox some time ago, and while therapists usually have all the answers, they’re smart enough to ask an expert when it comes to Facebook-related drama. Thankfully, the Laurens are here to help.

Q: How do I handle a really passive aggressive Facebook friend?  I have this friend that I see fairly often because she’s in my circle, but we’re not super close or anything.  She constantly posts status updates and tweets that seem to be aimed at me directly, stuff like “well I guess some people get drunk faster than others” the morning after I get drunk with everyone, or “Ugh, some people need to shut up” after I post a few updates in a row.  If I say anything to her about it, I know she’s going to say that I’m being egotistical by assuming they’re about me, but I KNOW they’re about me.  What do I do?

Hello caller!

Sorry if you needed this information a few months ago— I was just busy moving across the country. But that’s no excuse for not tackling this issue on the double and for that I apologize. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in my move to LA it’s that haterz gon’ hate. Sounds like this Facebook Biatch lives and breathes for every little update you choose to give your internet pals. I’m a huge fan of the DELETE button—if I get sick of someone’s updates or if I just decide someone doesn’t need to be privy to mine, I head over to my “Friends” section and click a few X’s. Honestly it sounds like this cow just needs to be put out to pasture. I know you’re going to have to hang out with her every so often whether you like it or not, but your best bet is to delete and retreat. This way you avoid a passive aggressive FB war and force her to handle her emotions in person. Let her get riled up about your future status messages in person and, if you’re lucky, she’ll post a comment to your face. If she can’t bring it IRL then don’t you worry your pretty little head about her answer to that age old FB question, “What’s on your mind?”

Love,
Lauren

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Q: Do I have to reply with a ‘thank you!’ to all of the happy birthday messages on my Facebook wall? I want to respond to some, but it will take weeks for me to send a ‘thank you’ to everyone who posted on my wall, and after a day or so goes by, it gets awkward.  How soon after my birthday do I need to respond and what’s the criteria for birthday wishes that merit a response and those that can drift quietly into the past never to be spoken of again? -A Year Older
A: Oh my God, it’s so hard being popular.  How on earth would you ever have time to write back to all the tens of thousands of friends who wrote basic “Happy bday” messages on your wall? Well, A Year Older, maybe they don’t all deserve a thank you. With apps like this one available now, iPhone users can have their birthday greetings automatically generated. It will even fill in the birthday boy or girl’s name with a simple setting adjustment. If this isn’t a sign of how little anyone cares about your birthday, then I don’t know what is. Revel in your birthday wishes, but don’t get carried away. Thank the people (read: not robots) who took the time to post a personal message, and toss up a “THANX EVERY1 U RULE” status message to take care of the rest. Sure, it’s “your day”— but don’t remind us every two seconds by clogging our live feeds with all of your meaningless thank yous.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Love,
Lauren

Q: Do I have to reply with a ‘thank you!’ to all of the happy birthday messages on my Facebook wall? I want to respond to some, but it will take weeks for me to send a ‘thank you’ to everyone who posted on my wall, and after a day or so goes by, it gets awkward.  How soon after my birthday do I need to respond and what’s the criteria for birthday wishes that merit a response and those that can drift quietly into the past never to be spoken of again? -A Year Older

A: Oh my God, it’s so hard being popular.  How on earth would you ever have time to write back to all the tens of thousands of friends who wrote basic “Happy bday” messages on your wall? Well, A Year Older, maybe they don’t all deserve a thank you. With apps like this one available now, iPhone users can have their birthday greetings automatically generated. It will even fill in the birthday boy or girl’s name with a simple setting adjustment. If this isn’t a sign of how little anyone cares about your birthday, then I don’t know what is. Revel in your birthday wishes, but don’t get carried away. Thank the people (read: not robots) who took the time to post a personal message, and toss up a “THANX EVERY1 U RULE” status message to take care of the rest. Sure, it’s “your day”— but don’t remind us every two seconds by clogging our live feeds with all of your meaningless thank yous.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Love,

Lauren

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