Q: I noticed my friend number changed last week, and, I’m ashamed to say this, I cannot figure out who defriended me. Is there an app/way to figure out who hated me so much they could not stand to see what I was up to in their newsfeed? I would appreciate any advice!
-Slightly paranoid but pretty sure I’m still an okay chick
A: Listen up, Slightly Paranoid, losing a Facebook friend is like losing the back of an earring underneath your couch. You could bend down to find it, or you could just use an eraser for the time being and move on with your life. Stop fretting, boo!! Short of going all A Beautiful Mind on your friend list until you crack the code, there isn’t an app or a way for you to figure out who hopped off of your friendship train. But would you really care if there was? Unless this person is your significant other or a well-liked member of your family, I see no real value lost here—especially if you have no clue who the defriender is. Don’t lose any sleep over this—the numerical decrease could be anything from a deactivated profile to the final straw of someone who truly hates you. Either way, don’t rush to find out. You will find out who the defriender offender is eventually, and it will hurt your feelings. It will start innocently at first: you’ll see a friend tagged in a photo and realize you haven’t seen or heard from them on your news feed in a while. Next, you’ll click on their name: instead of a full-length profile, you’re hit with a name, a thumbnail pic, and the dreaded ‘Add as Friend’ graphic hovering at the top of the page. That’s when your heart sinks as you realize that someone somewhere despises you and that you are not, in fact, an okay chick. And then you will cry… Or so I hear. Trust me—until that moment, ignorance is bliss.
Love,
Lauren
