Q: Should I defriend my exes or friends I’m on bad terms with on facebook? I really hate running into them on my newsfeed, but I don’t wanna defriend them just in case we patch things up in the future, it would be awkward and embarassing to have to refriend em. -Anonymous

A: Woah there, Anon. Let me go ahead and tell you something that part of you already knows: you are fickle.  Someone can be flying high as your friend or lover one day and be blacklisted and ‘on bad terms’ the next just because your mood has changed? Uncool, dude!  We all have our bad days and people who piss us off, but that doesn’t give you the right to go from zero to defriended before taking a minute to cool off.  Think this through; the fact that you’re already anticipating patching things up with these poor souls is a clear sign that you are not emotionally ready to let go.  And news flash: unjustly ex-communicating a friend is a great way to make things awkward and embarrassing super fast.  To avoid crawling back to your sometimes-friends with your proverbial tail between your legs, you need to learn to take your reactive behavior down like 27 notches, okay? Next time you get the irrational itch to defriend, take a quick breath, look at some cute pics of baby cats, and get your blood pressure back where it belongs before you end up on Snapped. With your FB-induced rage under control, you’ll stop living in constant fear of awkward embarrassment, that poor ‘Remove from Friends’ button will finally get a rest, and your ‘friends’ just may stop suggesting you see a therapist.  Everybody wins!

Love,

Lauren